Sometimes, marriage does not last. Your marriage may feel like it is failing. You may even be considering a divorce. During this confusing time, you may be looking for ways to understand your situation.

While it is difficult to come to terms with the fact that your relationship with your spouse may end, it is important to know that you are not alone, and divorce does not need to be a dirty word. A lot of marriages end for a wide variety of reasons. Here are a few of the most common factors that lead to divorce.

Divorced parents

Are your parents divorced? What about your spouse’s parents? If there is any divorce in your past, you have a higher likelihood of experiencing it.

Financial arguments

Money problems and disagreements can cause a lot of tension within a marriage. Maybe you and your spouse have different perspectives on spending and saving. Perhaps you go through a financial crisis and it results in strain on your relationship.

Incompatible substance use

Drinking alcohol is not necessarily a deal breaker in a relationship. But if you and your spouse do not see eye-to-eye when it comes to substance use, it can cause serious problems. This is especially true if one of you struggles with dependence, abuse or addiction to alcohol or drugs.

Previous marriages

If this is your second or third marriage, your destiny is not to get a divorce. But the odds are higher. Approximately 40% of second marriages end within 10 years in comparison to 35% of first marriages.

Lack of emotional or sexual intimacy

A healthy relationship requires you and your spouse to be intimate. If intimacy is lost, it can be difficult to stay in the relationship. Common causes of intimacy issues include infidelity, changes in sex drive, health issues, grief and other life challenges.

Marital problems are inevitable. But whether yours ends in divorce is ultimately up to you and your partner.