No matter what has gone wrong in your marriage, nothing changes the fact that you're hoping for a brighter future. Sure, there will be a variety of challenges standing in your way, but none of which are too big that they can't be overcome.
The divorce process is typically full of tension, stress and anxiety. This is particularly true if you have at least one child with your soon to be ex-spouse.
A dedication to co-parenting can go a long way in easing divorce-related tension. In other words, both you and the other parent must realize that there is nothing more important than stability for your child, regardless of his or her age.
Here are some of the many things you can do to achieve more co-parenting success:
- Think about how the other person feels. It's easy to say that you don't care, but this can lead to more harm than good. Put yourself in the other parent's shoes every now and again, as this will help you make better parenting decisions.
- Be flexible. Yes, you want to stick with the parenting agreement but that doesn't mean you should shut down all flexibility. If the other parent needs you to be flexible with your visitation schedule, for example, consider what you can do to make it work.
- Don't look for a reason to argue. This holds true both during the divorce process and after you've signed all the paperwork to end your marriage. You may argue with your ex-spouse every now and again, but you need to pick your battles. Turning everything into a fight is only going to make things worse on all parties.
It's not always easy to make the right co-parenting decisions, but you should do your best to avoid anything that could increase tension.
As you go through the divorce process, pay close attention to the things you can do to ease tensions and move things forward in a friendly manner. When you take this approach, while also understanding your legal rights as a parent, you'll find it easier to make the most of your life moving forward.